Hi, I’m Christine Lawler.
I’m a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and I’ve been practicing therapy for almost 10 years. I have an amazing husband who I’ve been married to for 8 years, and we’ve got three darling little girls.
I’m a big believer that therapist fit is really important. Too many people give up on counseling in general because they had a poor fit with a therapist and decided counseling didn’t work. Counseling DOES work, but the therapist/client match-up is important. You want to work with someone who’s personality you can jive with, and you need to believe that your therapist can actually help you. So, I’m going to tell you a little bit about myself and what sets me apart, and you can decide if I sound like the right fit for you:
I graduated from Brigham Young University, the #1 Marriage and Family Therapy program in the country. I’m not saying this to brag, only to confidently report that my education was top notch. We were constantly taught how important it is to be a fantastic therapist, because unfortunately, unskilled therapists can do more harm than good and often clients have no way of discerning. I was also taught that having a good foundational background is important, but what I do after graduation to hone my skills is what will set me apart. Because of this, I have thrown myself into reading and taking continuing education courses from the leaders in the field. I’m a critical consumer of information and I make sure that everything I do is grounded in theory.
Another thing that I think sets me apart, is that during grad school we were required to be in our own therapy for the entire two years. This has helped me in several ways throughout my career.
1) I learned a lot of subtle things about being a good therapist from spending time “on the other couch.” I learned interpersonal approaches that work and ones that don’t.
2) We all have “stuff,” and because I’ve taken the opportunity to dig through, learn, and heal from mine, I’m better able to walk you through yours. I understand the journey because I’ve personally done my own, and I can avoid things like counter-transference that would otherwise make me ineffective. Though my walk was different than yours, there are a lot of universal truths about healing, and I’ve found that my approach makes clients feel validated and understood rather than judged.
3) I learned a love for therapy that’s different than what I would have learned from books or my limited therapy experiences before grad school. I’m genuinely excited for my clients when they decide to take this journey on. I have a passion and a drive that makes counseling so much more than a career for me. It’s who I am.
4) I practice what I preach. You’ve heard the saying “those who can’t do, teach,” and you’ve probably heard the stereotype that many therapists are crazy themselves. Not here. I’m certainly not perfect, but I’ve got my sh*t together. I have an awesome marriage because I diligently implement the practices I teach you. I have great kids and I feel like a pretty great mom (most of the time!) I’m happy, healthy and fulfilled because I practice self-care and I’ve learned to let go of shame and feelings of inadequacy. I can help you do the same.
AREAS OF FOCUS
I fundamentally believe that marriage should be fun. Think back to when you were first dating, when falling in love was so natural. You probably enjoyed each other. I imagine you had fun, you talked, you dreamed, you laughed, you dated and had adventures and new experiences together.
But then life happened. You grew up. You had kids, maybe some more schooling, jobs, bills and stress. Fun and flirtation was probably replaced by responsibility and survival. If you’ve disconnected over the years or hurt feelings and resentments are getting in the way of you really enjoying your relationship, I can help.
Physical intimacy is one of the most vulnerable and problematic areas of relationships and we don’t talk about it nearly enough. So many emotional and relational dynamics are manifest through physical intimacy, like: meeting each other’s needs, giving vs taking, and feeling loved, valued and appreciated.
Add to that the complexity of hormones, having kids and stressful jobs, and diminished sex drive in one or both spouses and you’ve got breeding ground for a lot of feelings of rejection and disconnection. Read more about sex therapy by clicking below.
Being a teenage girl is really, really hard. The truth is, as wonderful as a parent as I’m sure you are, there are simply things your daughter is going through that she’s not talking to you about. I get to be this adult in her life that she can talk to openly, where she won’t be judged or worry about getting in trouble, but I’m still invested in her long-term well-being.
I’m the perfect blend of role model and friend. I’m older and wiser but I’m still cool (hopefully!!) and in the know with what’s probably going on in her world. I firmly believe that it’s one of the best investments you’ll make for them.
Experiencing doubts or questions about faith can be really overwhelming, daunting and lonely. Similarly, if you have a loved one in a faith crisis it may also feel overwhelming, scary and lonely.
Same Gender Attraction: LDS or not, coming to terms with LGBT issues can be an emotional roller coaster. You’ve probably spent most of your life up until this point trying to dismiss those feelings or “pray away the gay.” It hasn’t worked and now you’re ready to figure out what your sexuality means and how to reconcile your testimony.
Newsflash! Sleep is critical to our emotional and physical well-being. We all know this, yet somehow, we all walk around tired and we just accept exhaustion as part of adulthood. That doesn’t need to be the case, getting quality sleep again is possible.
If you have chronic insomnia, I can help! I’m specially trained in a method called CBT-I that’s proven to be the most effective behavioral treatment for insomnia out there. It’s a super cool process that retrains your brain to sleep well again
Whether it’s depression, anxiety or just some things about yourself or your past you want to figure out and overcome, we’ll work together on your self-empowerment and overcoming these negative feelings, I love this type of work because it truly helps you reconnect with yourself again!
We’ll identify that pesky negative voice in your head and I’ll teach you some tools to shut him/her up and help you regain your self-confidence and self-love. Let’s find that inner peace you’re seeking.
Ready to take the next step towards healing? Let’s schedule a free consultation.